3 Tips for Breaking the Gridlock During Relationship Conflict – Couples Therapy Wooster, OH
Laurence Kendrick October 20, 2021
Couples Therapy Wooster, OH
1) You Both Can Be Right
Comparative thinking can create a strong divide of right and wrong. Use contemplative thinking with words like "and" instead of "but" to communicate issues existing together instead of one or the other. This opens the door for creative solutions to your conflict.
2) Be Vulnerable With Each Other
Avoid putting up your guard and setting the position of your argument to blame your partner. Open up and describe how you feel using "I feel" instead of "You make me feel."
3) Find Common Ground and Build on Similarities
Seek out what you both agree on to help shed light on the positive aspects of the conflict and what can be gained.
If you're having trouble sorting through conflict in your relationship, I can help.
Learn more about common relationship conflict mistakes and how to break the gridlock.
Andrew G., Marshall. “Three Common Mistakes Couples Make During Conflict” gottman.com, July 8, 2021, https://www.gottman.com/blog/three-common-mistakes-couples-make-during-conflict/
Laurence approaches counseling from a broad perspective of non-judgemental, solution-focused strategies that emphasize the individuals strengths and abilities for overcoming life’s trials, turning obstacles into opportunities for growth.
He enjoys working colaboratively within a family systems relational model to maximize success for individuals, couples, and families. Respecting your values, beliefs, and life experience, he looks forward to helping you re-imagine your life story to affirm that which is good, unique, and worthy of the peace and happiness you desire.