How To Spot The Difference Between Chemistry And Compatibility
Angela Earley June 17, 2024
Therapist Wooster, OH
1. Chemistry Is Not Compatibility
Chemistry can be misleading as it often sparks initial attraction and excitement, which might be mistaken for compatibility. However, true compatibility involves deeper connections that are built on shared values, goals, and mutual understanding beyond just physical or emotional attraction. It's important to recognize that while chemistry can initiate a connection, compatibility sustains relationships over the long term (Psychology Today) (Psychology Today).
2. Evaluating Core Values and Long-Term Goals
To assess compatibility, it's essential to consider whether you and your partner share similar core values, goals, and lifestyles. This involves looking beyond the surface level of immediate attractions and understanding each other’s perspectives on life, ambitions, and how you handle conflicts. Asking direct questions about these topics can provide clear insights into whether a long-lasting relationship is feasible (Psychology Today).
3. The Role of Communication in Sustaining Relationships
Effective communication is crucial in distinguishing between chemistry and compatibility. Being able to openly discuss feelings, experiences, and expectations not only clarifies whether the initial chemistry can evolve into a compatible relationship but also strengthens the bond between partners by fostering honesty and transparency (Psychology Today) (Psychology Today).
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Citation
Sussex Publishers. (n.d.). 3 ways to spot the difference in chemistry and compatibility. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202405/3-ways-to-spot-the-difference-in-chemistry-and-compatibility
Since 2012, Angela has been assessing clients and successfully guiding trauma treatment in her private practice using the NeuroSequential Model of Therapeutics (NMT) developed by Dr. Bruce Perry of the Child Trauma Academy. In addition, Angela has been invited to consult on multiple regional cases involving highly challenging special needs children.
